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UK support for mothers, fathers, and grandparents facing alienating behaviours from a former partner or family member.

Dedicated to Benjamin & Lily - A Father's Mission

This website is dedicated to my children Benjamin Fontaine & Lily Fontaine who I love very much. They are victims of alienating behaviours. They are also victims of these behaviours that we need to find a way for the courts to address, to support and stop this happening in the future. In the next few months I will be going through my experiences that have led to where we are today.

The website is for you, the alienated parent. We will support you, give you the experience we have and work to achieve the best outcome for you and your children. We offer support for parents, mothers, fathers and grandparents. Do not give up!

Understanding Alienating Behaviours in 2026

The Law Has Changed. We Will Help You Understand It.

In 2026, UK family courts and Cafcass do not use the term "Parental Alienation Syndrome" as a medical diagnosis. They focus on alienating behaviours. This means the court looks at what the other parent is actually doing to damage your relationship with your child.

The court uses a test from a case called Re C [2023] EWHC 345 (Fam). This test asks three questions. First, is the child refusing or resisting a relationship with you? Second, is this refusal caused by something you did? Third, has the other parent used behaviours that led to this refusal? We explain this test in plain English on our legal guides.

We also reference the Five-Factor Model published by Bernet and Greenhill in the Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry in 2022. This model helps parents document a clear pattern of behaviour. The five factors are contact refusal, a prior positive bond, no abuse or neglect, alienating behaviours by the other parent, and behavioural signs in the child.

You do not need a medical diagnosis. You need a clear record of what has happened. IAAPS provides the tools to build that record.

It Is Always About the Children

This Is All About the Children. Not the Parents.

IAAPS exists for one reason only. To protect the relationship between a child and a loving parent or grandparent. This is not about winning a fight with your ex partner. This is not about using the court to score points. This is about making sure a child does not lose someone who loves them.

When parents separate, the only thing that matters is what is best for the child. A child deserves to have a full and loving relationship with both parents. A child deserves to know their grandparents. When one parent tries to damage or destroy that relationship, the child suffers most of all.

IAAPS helps parents and grandparents document what is happening. We provide the tools to show the court the truth. But we only support cases where the focus remains on the child's welfare. We do not support feuding parents who are using alienation claims as a weapon.

Alienating Behaviours Can Come From Either Parent

Mothers and Fathers Can Both Alienate

Things have changed in UK family courts. In the past, fathers often got a raw deal. Courts assumed children should live with their mother. That is no longer the case. Fathers can and do get residency. This is a good thing. Children need both parents.

But with this change comes a new reality. A mother can be the alienating parent. A father with residency can also use the same tactics to push the other parent out of the child's life. Alienating behaviours are not about gender. They are about control.

IAAPS supports all targeted parents. Mothers who are being pushed out. Fathers who are being pushed out. Grandparents who are cut off. The law does not pick sides based on gender. Neither do we.

Other Issues Matter

Domestic Violence, Drugs, and Alcohol Change Everything

IAAPS is clear about one thing. We only support cases where a loving parent is being unfairly pushed out. If there is real domestic violence, drug abuse, or alcohol abuse, the court has good reason to limit contact. Protecting a child from genuine harm is not alienation. It is good parenting.

If you have been accused of these things and the accusations are false, the court will need to decide the facts. IAAPS can help you understand the legal process. But we do not help parents avoid genuine safeguarding concerns. The child's safety always comes first.

Who IAAPS Helps

Support for Everyone Affected by Alienating Behaviours

IAAPS provides resources for several groups of people. The first group is mothers and fathers who are being pushed out of their children's lives. The second group is grandparents who are cut off from seeing their grandchildren. The third group is professionals including solicitors, barristers, judges, Cafcass officers, and social workers.

Reuben Fontaine, the founder of IAAPS, has a degree in Family Law from the University of East London. He has over 20 years of personal experience with alienating behaviours. For the past 10 years, he has not seen his own children due to the actions of the other parent. He has never spoken ill of the other parent to the children. Instead, he uses his legal training and personal experience to help others. He currently advises people from all over the world via his X (Twitter) account @ReubenFontaine. He assists with family matters including court paperwork and mediation support at no cost.

What IAAPS Offers

Free Resources and a Supportive Community

Free Legal Information

Understand your rights under UK law and what Cafcass really looks for.

Practical Court Guidance

We offer practical court guidance and evidence checklists for family court.

Private Community Access

Connect with other targeted parents who understand your situation.

How IAAPS Works

Three Steps to Taking Back Control

Step 1: Learn the Signs

Read the free guide on the Five-Factor Model. Knowing what to look for is the first step. The model breaks down the behaviours that courts recognise. This helps you move from feeling confused to having a clear focus.

Step 2: Get a Plan

Use the free templates to organise evidence. Show the court what has happened in a clear and calm way. IAAPS provides a position statement template designed specifically for cases involving alienating behaviours. This document helps you present facts without emotional language that can harm your case.

Step 3: Find Your People

Join the private community for just GBP 10.00 per year. Listen to the IAAPS podcast. Reuben plans to produce episodes of about 15 minutes each, covering the practical issues he went through with his own case. You do not have to do this on your own.

The IAAPS Mission

Building a Global Conference for Change

IAAPSCIC is planning an international conference to bring together judges, Cafcass officers, police, solicitors, and parents from all over the world. The goal is to discuss how the law needs to change to stop alienating behaviours. This conference will create a consensus on the way forward.

Your GBP 10.00 membership helps make this conference happen. We hope that the support we offer will help you to reignite your relationship with your children.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is parental alienation in simple terms?

Parental alienation is when one parent uses behaviours that cause a child to reject the other parent without a good reason. UK courts call this "alienating behaviours" not a "syndrome." The child loses a loving relationship through no fault of the rejected parent.

Is parental alienation against the law in the UK?

There is no specific law called "parental alienation." However, UK courts take alienating behaviours very seriously when deciding child arrangements. A judge can change who the child lives with if alienation is proven.

Who does IAAPS help?

IAAPS helps mothers, fathers, and grandparents who are being unfairly pushed out of a child's life. We also provide resources for professionals like solicitors and Cafcass officers.

What does the GBP 10.00 membership give me?

Members get early access to the IAAPS podcast, exclusive legal templates, conference updates, and access to a private community of other targeted parents.

Can a mother alienate a child against the father?

Yes. Alienating behaviours can come from either parent. Fathers can also alienate children against mothers. IAAPS does not take sides based on gender. The focus is always on what is best for the child.

You Do Not Have to Face This Alone.

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